Social Media brings loneliness and jealousy

I used to spend 10 minutes before going to sleep and then waking up each morning scrolling Instagram and my Facebook feed “catching up” on your life. What I realized was that this “catching up” put me into a “fantasy state” that left me thinking about my temporary state of merely being a human. My fantasy state would lead me to end each day in a fantasy and I woke up in a state of fantasy.  Now I know that how you mentally end each day right before your state of sleep is how your mind wakes up. Have you gone to bed frustrated or angry to just wake up agitated and growly? What state you end in today is the state you begin tomorrow.


Measuring Your Life

I can’t measure my life against your life because I can’t measure what is not real in my life. When TV went from “shows” to “reality TV” it was a big deal. Remember how everyone was critical and couldn’t believe how you would just watch someone else live their life. What was the appeal of reality TV? It allowed you to live in the fantasy world of their life.


We now all live in a “reality TV fantasy world” by peeking through a little black box and into other’s lives. I have an Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+, and a Twitter account. But there is a good and bad way to approach our new fantasy world. How you approach this new world will bring you either loneliness and jealousy or measured peace.


When you get on Instagram (my favorite social media) and you begin your fantasy experience of looking at everyone’s life you may subconsciously do a few things. You may compare your life against the fantasy that you are looking at. Remember, that most people are posting the best parts of their day. They are posting their personal wins!


When you compare your life to a fantasy you experience either a feeling of good or bad. You feel bad because jealousy creeps in and you think, “I wish I could do or have that.” Or you feel good because, “Wow my kids, house, car, boat, or vacation, is nicer than theirs!”


Oh, “I never do that I’m not a jealous person.” When you are on social media it triggers your mind into a fantasy state. Understand that you are now in a fantasy state or a world that is virtual and react accordingly. How should you approach this fantasy world we live in? Do NOT measure your life against a fantasy because you cannot measure what is not real.

Fantasies cannot be measured

You and I must accept that social media is a fantasy. You cannot measure a fantasy. You can only measure what you are personally tracking in your own reality on a daily basis.


Being on social media will not bring your soul purpose and peace. Enjoy other people’s success and victories. Cheer on your family and friends through their wins! But, remember that their wins are a fantasy and not a reality in your life.


When you look beyond your merely human state and reflect on your soul it reveals that you can have a life of purpose which gives you peace. Daily time of reflection allows you to adjust your focus from the fantasy world to your reality. In order for reflection to work, you must track and measure your progress on a daily basis.


Now, when I go to sleep I take time to reflect, track and measure personal wins. When I wake up I’m now in a state of reflection that allows me to set high goals I can achieve. This allows me to go into my day with the proper worldview as my mind is focused on what brings life and peace.


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